How I Got my Hair Back

Just before I turned thirty, I cut my hair short.  I didn’t tell anyone I was going to do it, I just dropped into a London salon I’d searched up on Google that day at work, went armed with a couple of pictures I’d saved from Pinterest on the train ride, and I had the whole lot lopped off.  SNIP SNIP.  For someone who felt like her long hair had defined her throughout her teens and early twenties, this took guts.  And while the decision was impulsive and was put down by those around me to Saturn’s Return, the truth was that I did it – and decided that I needed to do it – because I felt like I’d completely lost control of my hair.  It was in bad shape and was making me miserable every time I looked in the mirror.

The long, mermaid hair I’d always thought of as “me” had split and thinned out to the extent that I’d actually stopped wearing it down, and just putting it into a lanky, limp ponytail made me upset.  It just looked awful.  Something had changed around the time that I moved to London.  London water is HARD, and the chalky residue it left behind every time I washed my hair was drying it out. It was so damaged that it was falling out in terrifying chunks in the shower or when I brushed it.  And even though Sunny and everyone around me kept telling me that it wasn’t as bad as I thought it was, I refused to hear them.  But then I also refused to do the one thing I could to get it back under control. Instead of getting it cut, I desperately clung on to the meager strands I had even though they were beyond help.

Finally deciding to let those dead ends rest in peace was the first step I took to getting my hair back, and three years of hard work later, it’s looking so much thicker and healthier.  I mean, it’s not perfect by any means, but I’m happy with it.  I think I’ve finally found a routine that works. 🙂

Of all my weird patterned shirts (and there are a lot.  A LOT.), I think this mermaid one is my favourite.  Unfortunately, it’s a few years old now but I did find a link to one selling on eBay if anyone’s interested. 🙂

Regular Trims

When I was seventeen I had hair down to my waist and my whole hair care regime involved my Mum dragging me to her hairdresser once a year where I mournfully parted with an inch of a dead ends.  Then, during my twenties it became horribly clear that the old ways just weren’t cutting it anymore (…see what I did there 😉 ).  My fine, dry hair was far more prone to breakage than it used to be (thanks London water!) and so far more susceptible to splits.  That meant that the longer I left it between trims, the thinner my hair got as the split ends made their way up the hair shaft.  Nowadays I’m still a bit lacsy-daisy about getting my ass down to the hairdressers regularly, but as soon as I see the ends drying out and splitting, I go and part with as much hair as I need to to keep the hair I do have looking healthy.

Less Washing & Heat Styling

I used to wash my hair every day – and sure it kept my hair clean and restyled, but by doing so I stripped it of all its natural oils.  Plus heat styling every day on top of that made it dry, which in turn left it brittle.  These days I wash my hair no more than three times a week (I like the Garnier Ultimate Blends Sensitive Scalp Shampoo and Conditioner) and heat style it as little as possible.  (It also helps that the water here in Cardiff is nice and soft).

I’m a huge fan of Toni&Guy’s styling products; they smell amazing, they don’t weigh my fine hair down and they’re usually on a two for one offer either at the supermarket or Boots! 😉 I can’t rave about Vitapointe enough; it’s basically a leave in conditioner that you put on dry hair and I like to put it on my ends after styling or whenever they’re looking a little frazzled.  You don’t need a lot of it, it’s not greasy and it’s cheap!  Aaaaand, I like to put a coconut oil mask on my ends once a week – usually when I’m in the bath – just to keep those split ends at bay.

Keep it Simple when it comes to Products

When my hair was at its worst I started buying expensive shampoos, conditioners and miracle oils to sort it out.  But that was a waste of time and money.  My hair was already broken, and layering heavy moisture-rich products on top just weighed it down, stressed out my scalp and no matter how expensive they were they were never going to be able to bring my dead ends back to life.  These days I’ve stripped my products back and only use ones that work with my hair type – and, they’re all cheap as chips! 😉  Oh, and I stick with them – no more chopping and changing.

Ditch the Hair Ties

It got to a point where I was so depressed about my hair that I stopped wearing it down and instead scraped it back into a bun every day.  But using hair ties was just making things worse and left me with flyaways and split ends halfway up the hair shaft.  I know there are supposedly hair ties out there that claim not to cause breakages, but for me, going cold turkey on all hair ties was the only thing that worked.  Clips and pins all the way!

No Dye

When I was at Uni I went through a whole pink hair phase – which was fun at the time, but did horrible things to my hair and scalp!  I had highlights and balayage throughout my twenties and although I loved how my hair looked with a bit of blonde through the ends, it just made it drier.  I made the decision to go Au Natural a few years ago and it’s definitely helped my hair spring back to its former glory.  I mean, I’m tempted all the time to foil up again like I used to… but I’ve worked so hard to get my hair back that I just can’t bring myself to do it.

Be Happy With What you Have!

Last time I went to the hairdressers there was teen in the chair next to me getting highlights put in.  She had the most gorgeous mass of curls I’ve ever seen and hair envy hit me HARD.  But, sometimes you’ve just got to roll with what you’ve got and be grateful for it.  Did cutting my hair short suddenly give me thick, curly hair?  Nnnnope.  But, it improved the condition of it and put me on the path to healthier locks. Sadly, thick, curly hair just isn’t in my genes.  I have fine hair.  I have dry hair.  I have annoying baby hairs around my face that like to stick up.  And, I’m probably never going to have the mermaid hair I was blessed with in my teens again.  But that’s okay.  The problem with wanting what you don’t have is that you forget to appreciate what you do have.

What are your top hair care tips or holy grail products?  Let everyone know in the comments! 💇

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What I Did: New Kicks and Cocktails at the Celtic Manor

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Happy Friday everyone!  Here’s another What I Did post, this time all about what I got up to yesterday.  It was a long one, which all started with Bungle barking at 5.30am.  I’ve got no idea why he’s waking up so early at the moment, but it’s driving me nuts!  Apparently a Golden Retriever in Australia holds the world record for the loudest bark and I can bloody believe it.  Once Bungle’s awake he barks and barks and barks until one of us crawls out of bed and goes downstairs to see him – and at the moment, that’s happening most mornings at the arse crack of dawn.  *sigh*  He’s such a brat!

Look at that innocent face.  Ugh!  🙂


After breakfast (and Bungle’s morning walk), I got dressed.  I put on my cosiest jumper (it’s been absolutely freezing in Cardiff this week!) and decided to give Benefit’s *Bad Gal Bang a road test.  The verdict?  Well, I applied it at 9am, absolutely loved the lift and volume that it gave my stubby little lashes and was amazed that they stayed in place right through until 11pm when I took my makeup off (Apparently it’s capable of lasting 36 hours, but honestly who on earth wears mascara for 36 hours?!).  I was able to avoid clumpy, tarantula eyes because the wand is easy to manouvre; so big tick on that one.

Now, it claims to be smudge proof, but alas I was panda’d up as usual by the afternoon, and I did have quite a bit of smudging by the end of the night under and above my lashes – so wah-wah on that one.  Buuuut, the lift and volume you get is pretty epic.


I popped into town to run a few errands… aaaaaand – like a Magpie with a one track mind – ended up in Skinny Dip looking at all the shiny, pretty things, and then H&M, where I bagged a new pair of trainers for £9 in the sale.



In the afternoon I worked on my book (fuelled by some fresh Welsh Cakes that I picked up from Bakestones in Cardiff Market), and then after dinner, Sunny and I drove up to the Celtic Manor.  I’ve passed by it so many times in the car on the way to and from London  – you can’t miss it towering over the M4 on the hillside near junction 24 – and I’ve always wanted to visit.  So I was very excited when I was invited along to the launch of its brand new cocktail lounge; The Mulberry.



Decorated with gold paint, dark marble and plenty of velvet, it was like stepping between the pages of The Great Gatsby, and the cocktails didn’t disappoint either.  Far from a bit of ice, fruit juice and gin shaken together, The Mulberry‘s cocktails are like a performance in a glass.  For example, their champagne cocktail, the Candy Floss Royal comes straight up with a cloud of pink candy floss in a martini glass, which melts when you pour over the muscat and champagne mix. And their Tom Collins?  They aerate it at the table with Laughing Gas.  Actual Laughing Gas, you guys.


I took my brand new Skinny Dip clutch out for a spin, which looked very much at home in the glitzy surroundings 🙂

Time to check in with Bungle.  My Mum and Dad bought us one of those Pet Cams for Christmas and it’s seriously amazing!  We’ve got it set up in the kitchen so every time we go out we can check in on Bungle and see whether he’s sleeping (unlikely…) or getting up to mischief (more likely!).  Last night he spent most of the time lying on his bed looking sorry for himself, poor guy. 😦  It’s nice to be able to check in with him and see whether we need to hurry back to him or can stay out a bit longer – plus, we can actually talk to him through it if we want to (…which he hates!  It really confuses him!).

Hooray for the weekend! Have a good one, whatever you’re up to! 🙂

5 Ways I’m Styling into Spring

Is it too early to use the S-word yet?  I mean, we’re only a couple of days into February (buh-bye January) and it’s not technically Spring until the middle of March… But what the hell, I’m taking it and running with it; January is over and that’s good enough for me.

It’s around this time of year that I start getting excited for Spring fashion; you know, that slightly warm day when you can finally rail your winter coat, or that dry day when you can head out in those cute flats without worrying that you’re going to tread ankle-deep into a puddle or leaf gunk and ruin them.  But… we’re not quite there yet.  So here are five ways that I’m slowly mixing things up and styling myself into Spring. 🌷


1. Bright and Bold

So maybe it’s a bit too soon to ditch the black skinnies and fluffy grey knits, but swapping in a bit colour in Spring shades – whether it’s a pastel pink handbag or some turquoise earrings – can make any outfit look a bit more… springing. These daffodil-yellow tassel earrings by Welsh jewellery designer Rhian Kate have barely left my lobes recently! They bring a perfect little pop of colour to any outfit.  And you’re all probably sick of seeing my fluffy pink jumper from Oliver Bonas, which I maintain is the softest and cosiest jumper I’ve ever owned (…it also survived a Kir Royale explosion over Christmas… same can’t be said of my kitchen wall… oops!).

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2. Prints

Now it’s a bit early for flowery dresses in my book (Florals, for Spring?  Groundbreaking…), but spots and stripes are great transition prints; they’re understated enough to be worn on grey and gloomy days but can easily be dressed up when the sun decides to make an appearance.  I bought this spotty dress from Mango a few years ago and it’s easily the best dress I own – I mean, my cost per wear must be into half pennies by now.  But you don’t have to go monochrome like a dalmatian or a prisoner on day release, colourful spots and stripes – like this green jumper from ASOS – look great too 🙂

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3. Flats

I’m always the first to slip into some flats at this time of year, even when it’s still cold and wet outside (and even when my Mum rolls her eyes and warns that I’ll get *sigh* chillblains… which sound like something out of a Dickens novel, not the 21st century.  Sorry Mum.). Being able to say so-long to socks and boots to me means Spring has most definitely sprung.

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4. Blazers and Bikers

So. It’s still waaaaay too cold to go out without a coat, but it’s not quite cold enough to really bundle up. It’s the perfect time of year for blazers and biker jackets – easy to layer up and down whatever the weather.  (I’ve got my eye on that lovely blue Pimkie blazer below. 🙂 )

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5. Scarves

Scarves are probably the one thing from my cupboard that I find really hard to let go of when it gets warmer.  I never want to say goodbye to snuggling down and having something to hide my split ends in on a bad hair day.  Well, thank God there are neckerchiefs and lighter scarves out there to make the bare neck transition a little bit more… bare-able. 😉

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What are you excited to wear again now that Spring’s just around the corner? 🙂

What I Wore: Midnight

Last Wednesday the hubs and I planned to meet in town after work for dinner, so I ditched the hoodie and holy yoga pants (there’s nothing sacred about them, they’re just full of holes from Bungle nipping at them!) and with Christmas on the brain decided it was worth getting a little dressed up.  But, our fancy dinner out ended up turning into a couple of hours of soggy, impromptu Christmas Shopping followed by a cheeky Chinese Takeaway on the way home instead (hands down the classiest takeaway I’ve ever had 😉).

I wore my new lace dress from Coast which kind of reminds me a little bit of Self Portrait and a little bit of a flamenco dancer because of the dropped hem.  It’s so comfortable to wear (no worries about scoffing too many mince pies and turkey at the Christmas Party) and the skirt has a lovely shape and movement to it.


Dress – C/O Coast (*My Cardiff readers can get 20% off at the checkout in Coast Cardiff if you mention “The Cardiff Cwtch”).  Bag – Primark (in stores now).  Shoes – ASOS (Similar Here).  Earrings – H&M (Similar Here).






Big cheers to the hubs for the photographs (…and the Takeaway!). Who else is excited for party season? Have a great week everyone! 🌠

What I Wore: Autumn Greens

It’s finally scarf weather!  If you caught my Instagram Stories a few weeks back then you’ll have seen my excitement at bringing down my towering bundle of scarfs from the top of my wardrobe – and this silky teal green scarf is one of my absolute faves.  This time of year I feel like the clothing colour palette is so geared towards hot reds, oranges, mustards, maroons – all the colours that tend to wash my Daz White skin out!  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got a mustard jumper that I’m very attached to – but teal green ticks all the boxes for me and my pale, cool-shades-loving tones.  And actually, it goes really, really with mustard too.  🙂

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Did anyone do #NoSpendOctober?  I did it without even thinking about it (thanks flu!) and then officially jumped on the bandwagon at the end of the month.  I’ve been trying to get more use out of the clothes I’ve got hanging in my wardrobe recently anyway and have tried coming up with new outfits from what I’ve already got rather than cramming more impulse purchases into my already packed (and kind messy!) cupboards.  I think I’m going to keep going with it and see where it takes me.

Scarf – H&M (Old!  Similar here).  Blouse – White Stuff (Old Similar here).  Belt – £12.99 H&M.  Jeans – M&S (Old!).  Bag – TK Maxx (Similar here).  Coat – Primark (in store now).  Shoes – Primark (from the summer – I added the ribbons myself to stop them slipping off my giant feet.  In hindsight I probably shouldn’t have worn them – my feet froze!)


What are your favourite colours to wear this time of year? 🙂