Why I’m Making Habits instead of Resolutions

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Happy 2019!  I’ve gotta admit; it feels pretty good to be back in the swing of things (even if the first thing I marked in my brand new diary was a dentist appointment for today – the most Monday-est of Mondays…).  To be completely honest with you, this post was supposed to be a recipe for Thai Noodle Soup, buuuuuuut the truth is that I spent a little too much time on the sofa during the Crimbo Limbo scoffing cheese and chocolate and binge-watching You on Netflix instead of prepping Blog Posts.  NO REGRETS.  You’ll just have to stay-tuned for that recipe, but until then how about a good ol’ chin-wag about Resolutions instead?

For the record, I’m not a fan. I’m a pantser not a planner by nature with absolutely zero willpower (see Netflix and Chocolate binge above and the fact that I bought a five pack of jam donuts this morning ten minutes after my dentist appointment…) and so the prospect of waking up on the 1st of January a new and improved version of myself complete with a laminated list of goals for the year ahead in hand is not only enough to bring me out in a cold sweat but absolutely and completely bonkers.  For a start, I’m lucky if I even get out of bed on the first day of January, and who the hell wants to pile that kind of pressure on top of themselves on the very first day of a new year anyway?  It’s so easy to make those ambitious, slightly vague statements on New Years Eve with a glass of champagne in hand, isn’t it? Before you know it, it’s February and – just like the champagne – you’ve lost your fizz and all your grand plans have fallen flat.  That’s resolutions for you.

But hey – despite all of that – I still can’t resist that squeaky clean, brand spanking new, fresh diary feeling you get at the very start of a new year. Of course, there are a few things I’d like to change and try my hand at this year, but instead of making resolutions, I’m making new habits.

Why? Well, the problem with resolutions is that they’re usually a bit vague (I’m going to lose weight, I’m going to save more money) and/or a bit extreme (I’m never eating dairy again, I’m going to read 50 books) with no realistic plan in place to actually achieve them.  They demand perfection without a blink at the planning and hard work that needs to be put in; so it’s really no surprise when we flunk out come February. Habits on the other hand, are specific changes in behaviour that need a bit more thought and planning to put into practice.  Habits become a part of your daily routine – you have to actually make time for them – and so they’re much trickier to break and a more realistic way to achieve a new goal.  They’re more about the long road to perfection than perfection itself.

For example… 

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“This year, I’m going to get fit.”

HABIT
“This year, I’m going to go to Pilates class every Wednesday night at 7pm.”

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“This year, I’m going to find a new job.”

HABIT
“This year, I’m going to spend an hour every Tuesday night between 8 and 9pm applying for jobs.”

See what I’m saying? Think of it this way; the resolution is the goal, the habit is the plan you’re going to put into place to make sure you achieve it! …Or that’s the idea, anyway. 😉

So, which resolutions am I hoping to turn into habits in 2019? Honestly, they’re all really boring! Firstly, I want to read more books (she says, for the third year running… resolutions, ugh!); I love reading, but I’m terrible when it comes to making time for it. So this year I’m scheduling in an hour of reading time every day between 5 and 6pm. Be there or be square! Secondly, I want to add some more recipes to my midweek meal repertoire, especially some healthy ones. I’ve got a handful of go-to recipes that I’m getting bored of making all the time, so I’ve decided that I’m going to make it a new habit to spend an hour every Sunday researching a brand new recipe to cook for dinner during the week. And thirdly, I want a cleaner house (See? I told you they were boring!). Just before Christmas it became very clear that my old cleaning routine just wasn’t cutting it (the whole house was pretty much buried under a layer of Bungle’s fur…), so this year I’m going to try and set aside an hour a day to keep on top of the cleaning, one room at a time.  If I come up with something that works, I’ll let you know.  And that’s it! For now, at least…

So what about you? Are you making any changes this year? Also now’s the perfect time to let me know if there’s anything you want to see more (or less!) of here on the blog in 2019. Let me know in the comments! Hope you’re having a great start to the year! 🙂

5 Ways I’m Styling into Spring

Is it too early to use the S-word yet?  I mean, we’re only a couple of days into February (buh-bye January) and it’s not technically Spring until the middle of March… But what the hell, I’m taking it and running with it; January is over and that’s good enough for me.

It’s around this time of year that I start getting excited for Spring fashion; you know, that slightly warm day when you can finally rail your winter coat, or that dry day when you can head out in those cute flats without worrying that you’re going to tread ankle-deep into a puddle or leaf gunk and ruin them.  But… we’re not quite there yet.  So here are five ways that I’m slowly mixing things up and styling myself into Spring. 🌷


1. Bright and Bold

So maybe it’s a bit too soon to ditch the black skinnies and fluffy grey knits, but swapping in a bit colour in Spring shades – whether it’s a pastel pink handbag or some turquoise earrings – can make any outfit look a bit more… springing. These daffodil-yellow tassel earrings by Welsh jewellery designer Rhian Kate have barely left my lobes recently! They bring a perfect little pop of colour to any outfit.  And you’re all probably sick of seeing my fluffy pink jumper from Oliver Bonas, which I maintain is the softest and cosiest jumper I’ve ever owned (…it also survived a Kir Royale explosion over Christmas… same can’t be said of my kitchen wall… oops!).

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2. Prints

Now it’s a bit early for flowery dresses in my book (Florals, for Spring?  Groundbreaking…), but spots and stripes are great transition prints; they’re understated enough to be worn on grey and gloomy days but can easily be dressed up when the sun decides to make an appearance.  I bought this spotty dress from Mango a few years ago and it’s easily the best dress I own – I mean, my cost per wear must be into half pennies by now.  But you don’t have to go monochrome like a dalmatian or a prisoner on day release, colourful spots and stripes – like this green jumper from ASOS – look great too 🙂

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3. Flats

I’m always the first to slip into some flats at this time of year, even when it’s still cold and wet outside (and even when my Mum rolls her eyes and warns that I’ll get *sigh* chillblains… which sound like something out of a Dickens novel, not the 21st century.  Sorry Mum.). Being able to say so-long to socks and boots to me means Spring has most definitely sprung.

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4. Blazers and Bikers

So. It’s still waaaaay too cold to go out without a coat, but it’s not quite cold enough to really bundle up. It’s the perfect time of year for blazers and biker jackets – easy to layer up and down whatever the weather.  (I’ve got my eye on that lovely blue Pimkie blazer below. 🙂 )

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5. Scarves

Scarves are probably the one thing from my cupboard that I find really hard to let go of when it gets warmer.  I never want to say goodbye to snuggling down and having something to hide my split ends in on a bad hair day.  Well, thank God there are neckerchiefs and lighter scarves out there to make the bare neck transition a little bit more… bare-able. 😉

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What are you excited to wear again now that Spring’s just around the corner? 🙂